When should someone quit their job? It is very easy to answer in some cases. Just be honest with yourself and have a clear goal of life, you always know when a job is no longer suitable for you. In other cases, It is a hard-answered question. Most people are often dishonest about themselves or have no clear goal.
At first glance, this seems weird. But, just take your eyes around your workplace. I am sure that you will realize, the number of people who really love their work are few. Additional, fewer people have goals. Most of them like to depend on “Fate”
First, this is a consequence of education. It leads to many adults still not knowing what job they love or what their talents are.
Worse, Most people do not take time to ask questions about what they want to do in life. In other words, how they want to live a life. So, they transferred that responsibility to their parents, their relatives, their friends, their boss also.
“Parents wanna me have a stable job” “My friends love to have a high-end salary” “Girlfriend wants me to become a manager” “My boss wants me to learn more” All of these become the criteria to choose the jobs of many people.
They try to follow those criteria, which will become a nightmare in the future. And then, THEY QUIT.
Many people quit their jobs at the age of over 30, because they realized that they did a job, they did not like. Then, meeting a career crisis when they found the right way to their favorite job. Let’s imagine, you are being an intern at the age of 30.
So, the question “When should I quit my job?”is really an easy question, if you know exactly what you need for yourself. On the other side, it may lead to an incorrect decision.
As someone who sells goods just because the job is easy to be recruited, then he quit because he is scolded by his boss. After that, he goes around the companies and realizes that most of the sales bosses scold the staffs. It is just different in level of scolding.
If you are a seller and can not stand it, do not start selling anything right from the beginning. Many people take years to determine the level of scolding that they can stand.
Of course, as I told you. You choose a job that you do not like. This is the reason why you can quit at any time. It is not closely related to your work environment, your boss, salary, benefits,…
When you do not like something, everything relates to it that will be become a trigger.
When you do not know what you like is, and the employers do not know what you like is.
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If you decide to endure a job that you don’t like or you don’t know if you love it. You must at least identify why you need to endure it. For example, how much money do you need? why do you need that much money? How much money will you make in years?. That’s when you know you should quit.
It is also the moment that employers know you should leave, if they really care about your motivation. But, Let me tell you good news, it is only 3% of employers have the ability to identify motivation through the interview.
I am also wondering, 3% is too much??
The rest of the employers just want (or be forced) to fill the recruitment KPI, so they won’t care about your motivation.
So at the end of this blog, What is the moment you should quit?
From the above sharing, you can easily realize that you should (or need) quit, when:
You don’t have any reasons to endure this job.
Honestly, people do not quit their jobs when they should (or need) to quit. They quit because they want. If you have ever learned to make decisions, you will know that is your mistake in the first step
You do not distinguish what you want and what you really need.
After reading the previous blog “8 SIGNS YOU’VE BEEN IN YOUR JOB TOO LONG“, you realized that you are wondering about staying or needing a new job to grow. A lot of questions run around in your head, one of them is: “WHEN SHOULD I QUIT MY JOB AND HOW TO MAKE A PLEASANT QUIT?”
PART 1
1.DOES ” A PLEASANT QUIT ” EXIST?
The thing that you call “A Pleasant Quit” does not exist in reality. “A Pleasant Quit” means “When you quit your job, everyone will regret losing a colleague like you”.
Why does it not exist? Because when you quit your job, there is never happen “Everyone feels regretful!” No matter how you good at work (even if you are the best person in your company). no matter how you good at your relationship with everyone in the company (even you are a person most favorite company).
When you quit, this is what will happen: – Some people will regret it. – Some people will feel normal. – And some people will feel happy.
You understand, right?
It does not depend on who you are, how you are, or which position you are holding. Even if you are a company owner. When you are a very good person, there will be people who do not like that good (for example people are often taken out to compare with you!). Even when you are the most loved person, there will be second favorite people happy when you leave, because now they are ranked first!
So, “A Pleasant Quit” is something that never exists.
2. WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN YOU QUIT?
Let me tell you the truth: The fact that “not leaving a bad rumor about me” when quitting, does not really exist…
I remember the day when I left “a quite big position” in a multinational company. Because I felt that I did not want to and could not contribute more, while the salary and benefits were good. Many people were surprised, they do not even believe in “retiring from work because of not feeling contribution”. For them, just needing adequate wages and benefits. The less work, the more happiness. So they think it is not the reason for my leaving.
From here starts a rumor “He quit because of some discontent with the leaders”. More worrisome, many people began to make a theory, that I quit because of my Boss. “His boss stomped on the spot, so he could not continue to promote, therefore he was dissatisfied” Even if I am a person who does not care much about the so-called position, that rumor may still exist, even now
So, the definition of “A Pleasant Quit” means not leaving a bad rumor about you, which also does not exist.
3. WHAT IS REALLY “A PLEASANT QUIT”?
“A Pleasant Quit”. For me, it is leaving your job without having any worries. For employees to not worry about leaving, there are two things you must definitely accomplish:
Talk frankly with your direct boss about the reason for leaving:
Because their direct boss is the reason, for many people. – If you see that your boss is not good at his expertise, tell them. – Your boss is not good at management, tell them. – Hating your boss for any reason, tell them Of course, you tell them in a polite and straightforward way, before leaving.
You can hear the explanation, or not. You do not need to believe the explanation if you feel it is not honest enough. But at least, you say your reasons and your boss knows your reasons.
Many people do not do this, because they are afraid. They fear their boss will: – Have bad speech about them when they accept new jobs. – Block their way back to the old company once the new place does not go well. You make decisions based on fear, you will never be able to walk comfortably and calmly.
Take a look at it, if it is just because of your boss’s speech, the company does not hire you, there are only two possibilities: – Firstly, it is that company is hasty when they don’t hear your story, Is this a worth company? – Secondly, your ability is too bad to convince an employer, so is it the fault of your boss? You are still scared. No problem, you can not do it. It just does not think about anything nice. Nothing peace comes from fear.
And please note, there is an only one person you need to talk frankly about the real reason you left, that’s your direct boss. Colleagues with the department, the high-level boss, the HR department, etc that is the place you should choose to provide suitable information. If you can’t tell the truth to Boss in front of them, don’t think about what else to do behind their backs. Just taking a quickly leaving.
The second thing to do, after having a straightforward discussion with your direct boss is:
Having a reasonable time to hand over the work to the team
“A Pleasant Quit” of course includes handing over what you have done to the company. Pay special attention to legal issues in the process of handover such as documents, equipment, money… The handover must be made in writing with the signatures of both parties, and you should keep a copy or take a picture of the handover minutes to avoid future problems.
More importantly, make sure you do the best as you can to help your substitutes (of course, if the company has recruited a substitute before you quit), and do not share with them about why you quit.
Staying in the same job can be very comfortable – you know everyone, you know how everything works, you don’t have many challenges to deal with – but do you ever get the feeling that something is missing? You could be letting opportunities pass you by and damaging your long term career prospects in the process. It’s important to take control of your career progression.
There’s no simple rule that tells you if you’ve been in your job
too long, but any job deserving of your time should be fulfilling and provide
you with ongoing opportunities to learn and expand your skill set. Indeed,
research conducted by ADP Research Institute in 2015 and 2018 identified
that only 16% of workers across the globe are fully engaged with their jobs. So, if you feel your present role is lacking
the magic it might have once had, you’re not alone.
If your work no longer
inspires you, it could be time to look for something new. Do these eight signs
that you’ve been in your job too long sound familiar?
1. You’ve lost your love for the job and the
company
Without really thinking
about it, you’ve stopped making an effort, and you’re submitting work that you
know is not your best. You used to take pride in your work and now you just
don’t feel that way about it anymore; it has become routine, boring and
unfulfilling.
2. You could do your job in your sleep
Your working life just
isn’t supplying you with any challenges anymore, and although this might have
felt great at first, you now realise that you miss them and are starting to
feel increasingly disengaged. Nothing in your working day is stimulating your
intellect and you feel disappointed by the ease with which you can get away
with hardly trying.
3. You feel you don’t fit in, you’re less
sociable and your colleagues bore you
If office socialising
once used to be fun, it isn’t anymore. You can’t be bothered getting to know
new people. You keep conversations as short and impersonal as possible and don’t
interact with colleagues once the working day is over.
Don’t underestimate the degree to which feeling ‘at one’ with your
team can drive overall job wellbeing. The above research by ADP Research
Institute in 2015 and 2018 also found that across the world, those working in a
team frequently felt much more engaged in their jobs.
4. You’re clock watching and hate Mondays
You arrive promptly at
the start of the working day and leave immediately when it ends, keeping
careful track of each break in-between and making sure they never get cut
short. You count the days until holidays, even if they’re only a couple of days
long.
5. You feel left out of meetings and projects
Sometimes you feel as if
no-one at work really notices you’re there. You don’t get asked for your
opinions and no one treats you as if you have anything to contribute beyond
your day to day work. People whom you feel are less qualified than you are
often seem to get picked first.
Younger or less talented
people always seem to get chosen before you. You don’t feel that you get a fair
degree of praise for the work you do, and you never seem to be singled out for
bonuses. It’s years since you were last employee of the month, even though
you’re in a small team.
7. You’ve stopped believing in your company
When you first started
out you were passionate about what your company did or how it did it, but now
you feel this passion is waning. You feel disillusioned and don’t think senior
staff care about the company the way you once did. You feel that it has lost
its way, is betraying former ideals, or is simply mediocre.
Research has consistently shown that employees are most satisfied
working for companies whose values they feel match their own. A Workplace
Culture report published by LinkedIn in 2018 stated that 71% of professionals said they would be willing to take a pay cut to work
for a company that had shared values and a mission they believed in. So, if don’t feel you can
identify with your company’s purpose or work, it might be time to consider a
change.
8. You envy former colleagues who have
resigned
Perhaps you tell
yourself you’re not talented or brave enough to do what they did, but even if
they haven’t landed on their feet, you feel they’re better off out of the
company you still work for. You keep thinking about the new opportunities open
to them that you’re missing out on.
Update your CV
When you’ve been in one job for a long time, you need to explain
that you haven’t just been doing one thing. Understandably, you might not have updated your CV for a while, so it’s important to focus on the skills
you’ve developed and your achievements in the role since then. Write about
projects you worked on and arrange what you write in an order that shows you’ve
made progress. If you’ve unsure where to start, consider these quick
and easy ways to refresh your CV.
Prepare for interview
There are three things
you will need to tackle as quickly and as firmly as possible:
Firstly, you will need
to explain in positive terms why you were in one place for so long. You will
also need to reassure the interviewer that your skills are up to date.
Then, show that you have
what it takes to integrate into a new business culture. If you’ve recently
developed new hobbies or done volunteer work, this can help to show that you’re
still flexible.
You could spend all your working hours looking through job adverts on your own, but a skilled recruiter will be able to look at your CV and instantly match you up with suitable positions. After that, it’s up to you. There are no guarantees, but you could be about to find yourself in a job that really makes you feel alive.
Nowadays, people are wrapped up in work too much that they forgot “you are more than your job”.
Looking for a new job but having zero luck getting hired can be, put it lightly, incredibly demoralizing.
As it turns out, “the data supports the conventional wisdom,” said Dan Witters, a principal and research director at the Gallup National Health and Well-Being Index.
While research shows that people experience an increased sense of well-being just after losing their jobs, that trend reverses if they’re still hunting after 10 to 12 weeks. On top of the obvious financial stress that comes with being unemployed or underemployed, these groups also suffer from worse physical health, with rates of depression rising among the unemployed the longer they go without finding work.
Feeling depressive for job search? Let’s we help you to solve it
The solution to job-search depression isn’t as easy as hitting the pavement and sending out more résumés. Even strong candidates aren’t guaranteed success, creating “this constant uncertainty of not knowing when the job search will end,” said Michelle Maidenberg, an adjunct graduate professor of cognitive behavioural therapy and human behaviour at the Silver School of Social Work at N.Y.U. with a private practice in Harrison, N.Y.
Dealing emotionally with this sort of adversity is a skill few of us have been taught, and it requires building new habits in our personal lives.
If it feels as if your well-being is on hold while you focus on bigger things — like a job hunt — consider this: The emotional and mental health outcomes of unemployment can create “a feedback mechanism where the longer you go, the harder it is on your emotional health,” Mr. Witters said. “The worse your emotional health is, the harder it is to find a job.”
Whether you’re suffering from job-search depression or happily employed, learning the coping mechanisms needed to deal with things like uncertainty and loss of control will always come in handy, Dr. Maidenberg said.
1. You are more than your career
“So much of who we are is wrapped up in work, but you are more than your job,” said Alison Doyle, a job search expert at the Balance Careers, part of the Balance family of sites, which offer advice on such topics as personal finance, careers and small business.
When people imagine job-search depression, they often attribute it to financial instability and frequent rejection, but it turns out that “identity is a much bigger piece of the puzzle than people had previously thought,” said Dawn R. Norris, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse and the author of “Job Loss, Identity, and Mental Health.”
“In fact, many of the people in my study said it was the most important thing to them, even beyond financial problems,” she said. Those who listed financial concerns as their top source of stress often cited a perceived loss of identity as a close second.
The perception that we are our work is a major reason the job search, and receiving constant messages that we aren’t who we think we are, is so distressing.
“If your identity is threatened, you need an identity-based solution,” Dr. Norris said.
The solution: Recognize that your personality is made up of a diverse range of experiences, interests and values — not just your employment status — and “have other areas in your life that you can lean on as a source of joy and confidence.” This is pivotal to coping with job loss, Dr. Maidenberg said.
You should appreciate your self more
2. Treat job hunting like a job
Besides the loss of income and identity that can come with being out of work, there’s also the loss of day-to-day structure. Sending out emails while wearing sweatpants on the sofa might seem like a fantasy to some, but after a while, the loss of scheduled time can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression and disconnection, Dr. Norris said.
The solution: Create structure for yourself, both inside the job hunt and out. Setting strict office hours can help keep the search from bleeding into every area of your life, with deadlines pushing you to work more efficiently. Simple rules, like a “No LinkedIn after 6 p.m.” policy, or a mandatory lunch hour, will give you the space to focus on other interests and relationships and mentally recharge.
The stress of a job search can also make people feel as if they don’t deserve down time, but working overtime and pushing to the point of burnout will only exacerbate feelings of isolation and negativity. This can have an impact on both your mental health and your job prospects, Mr. Witters said.
“It’s a feedback mechanism where the longer you go, the harder it is on your emotional health,” he said. “The worse your emotional health is, the harder” it can be to successfully chase down job leads and dazzle interviewers.
Treat your job hunting like a job
3. Set yourself up for some wins
Mr. Witters said research showed that setting and reaching goals had a strong inverse relationship to depression.
“If you’re out of a job, one of your goals is going to be to find one,” he said. “That is a goal that is going unrealized.”
The solution: Whether you plan to send out a certain number of cover letters, or accomplish something that’s totally unrelated to your job search, try to “do a few things outside your comfort zone that are still achievable,” Ms. Doyle said. Doing so, she added, can make you “feel much better about yourself.”
Avoiding the temptation to set overambitious goals is especially important, she said, since failing to accomplish them will negatively affect your well-being and can even slow your overall progress.
While it might feel hard to appreciate smaller successes, especially if they seem mundane or aren’t directly connected to the job hunt, the power of small wins means these moments can have a major impact on our mental and emotional health.
Set a goal for what you are doing will keep you on the way
4. Learn new skills
The stress of the job hunt can make it easy to miss out on the benefit of unemployment: more free time.
The solution: “Look at the time in a way as a gift,” said Ms. Doyle, who recommended volunteering or taking free online classes.
Though using your free time to pursue new hobbies and skills “tends to bite the dust when you’re focused on finding a job,” Mr. Witters said, “there is a good inverse corollary to depression and learning new and interesting things.”
This can also be an opportunity to explore hobbies that you were too busy to nurture and probably won’t have time for once you land a job, Dr. Maidenberg said. Trying out new things and discovering other talents and interests can help us strengthen our identities and enjoy new sources of fulfilment.
If you’re interested in pursuing activities that relate to your professional skills, keeping your résumé up-to-date isn’t the only benefit, Dr. Norris said. “Depending on what aspect of your identity is threatened, finding something to do that’s similar enough” — a former manager could coach children’s sports, for instance; a laid-off E.M.T. might take a public safety course — can help reinforce the feeling that you are still the same person you were before, she said.
Learn for new skills and you may realize that you have other talents that you never think about
5. Stay social
One of the best ways to take a mental break from the job search, and to reaffirm the parts of your identity that don’t have anything to do with your career, is to spend time with family and friends, Dr. Maidenberg said. It’s also a good way to combat the isolation that many job seekers face.
Putting yourself out there isn’t always easy, especially given that there’s “definitely a stigma” around unemployment, Dr. Maidenberg said. Research shows that the long-term unemployed spend less time with family and friends, and embarrassment can contribute to people avoiding social interactions, Mr. Witters said.
If you’re finding it hard to socialize, start small, Dr. Norris said. Online communities and support groups are good places to start, as are clubs and networking events in your area. Just asking a friend to join you for coffee can help.
If you’re having a hard time prioritizing your health during your job search, go one step further and ask a loved one to act as your accountability partner, Mr. Witters suggested.
Keep in touch with people will help you overcome depression and heal your mental
“Having someone who’s encouraging you to pursue a healthy lifestyle and to be a better version of yourself,” he said, “helps alleviate the sense of loneliness and isolation and pessimism and despair that can come from prolonged unemployment.”
And if people ask what you do for a living?
“It’s fine to say, ‘I’m looking for my next opportunity,’” Ms. Doyle said. “The average person changes jobs nearly 12 times in their career, and not all of those changes are voluntary.” She added that “almost everyone’s lost a job, and people love to help people.”
Most importantly, she said: “Don’t feel bad that you’re unemployed, even if it’s your fault. It can happen to the best of us. You are not alone.”
Tại sao uống rượu trước buổi phỏng vấn ngoại ngữ giúp cải thiện kết quả? Đa số chúng ta đều chuẩn bị rất kĩ trước buổi phỏng vấn về thông tin, kiến thức, tình huống và tâm lý. Tuy nhiên, rất nhiều bạn mặc dù đã chuẩn bị kĩ càng trước đó nhưng ngay thời điểm khi mở cửa bước chân vào phòng phỏng vấn và đối mặt với nhà tuyển dụng thì lại bối rối và bị sự hồi hộp làm mất tự tin. Điều này thật khó chịu vì nó có thể ảnh hưởng đến sự thể hiện của bạn trong buổi phỏng vấn.
Mẹo nhỏ dành cho những ai chuẩn bị bước vào một buổi phỏng vấn ngoại ngữ: Hãy uống một chút rượu. Nghiêm túc mà nói, đó không phải ý tưởng quá điên rồ.
Một nghiên cứu được thực hiện trên 50 người Đức đang theo học tại Đại học Maastricht, nằm ở Hà Lan gần biên giới với Đức được đăng trên tạp chí Journal of Psychopharmacology chỉ ra rằng. Lượng cồn tương đương một cốc bia hoặc một ly rượu vang có thể giúp làm giảm sự mặc cảm, tự ti khi giao tiếp, đồng thời có thể giúp cho một người dễ dàng vượt qua sự căng thẳng và tật nói ấp úng. Qua đó cải thiện khả năng trình bày trong buổi phỏng vấn.
Trong cuộc khảo sát, các nhà khoa học đã tận dụng một bài thi tiếng Hà Lan dành cho các sinh viên người Đức để thực hiện thí nghiệm của mình. Họ chia nhóm sinh viên ra làm hai. Một nửa được cho uống nước, trong khi nửa còn lại được cho uống đồ uống có cồn. Lượng cồn trong các đồ uống này được tính toán theo cân nặng của từng người. Với một nam sinh nặng trung bình 70 kg, nó tương đương với gần một cốc bia.
Sau khi đã uống nước hoặc đồ uống có cồn, các sinh viên được yêu cầu thực hiện bài thi với giám khảo như bình thường. Nhưng họ sẽ không chấm điểm các sinh viên ngay lập tức. Thay vào đó, toàn bộ cuộc trò chuyện được ghi âm lại và đưa cho hai giáo viên khác, những người nói tiếng Hà Lan bản địa. Để đảm bảo tính khách quan, không một giáo viên chấm bài nào được cho biết sinh viên đã uống gì.
Kết quả, ngay khi bài thi kết thúc, các thí sinh rời phòng và quay trở lại gặp các nhà nghiên cứu. Họ yêu cầu các sinh viên này tự đánh giá và chấm điểm bài thi của mình.
Thật bất ngờ, không có sự khác biệt nào giữa nhóm uống nước và đồ uống có cồn.Tất cả đều thể hiện sự tự tin và mức độ hài lòng với phần thi của mình như nhau. Điều đó chứng tỏ rượu (ở mức độ nhẹ) không tác động đến sự tự tin của chính thí sinh.
Nhưng nó thực sự có tác dụng lên kết quả khách quan của bài thi, được chấm bởi hai giáo viên nghe băng ghi âm.
Nhìn chung, họ đánh giá những sinh viên trong nhóm tiêu thụ đồ uống có cồn nói lưu loát hơn – đặc biệt là phát âm tốt hơn – so với những người chỉ uống nước. Ngoài ra, không có sự chênh lệch ở điểm ngữ pháp, từ vựng và lập luận giữa hai nhóm. Lý giải kết quả thí nghiệm, các nhà khoa học nói rằng tiêu thụ đồ uống có cồn, ở mức độ từ thấp đến vừa phải, có thể giúp làm giảm cảm giác lo lắng về mặt ngôn ngữ của các thí sinh. Điều này có thể đã giúp họ nói ngoại ngữ trôi chảy hơn.
Trước đây, cũng đã từng có một nghiên cứu khác cho thấy uống một lượng nhỏ đồ uống có cồn đã giúp những người Mỹ học tiếng Thái Lan phát âm chuẩn hơn. Hiệu ứng có thể liên quan đến tâm trạng của người học sau khi tiêu thụ đồ uống. Mặc dù vậy, các nhà khoa học lưu ý rằng lượng cồn được sử dụng trong nghiên cứu chỉ ở mức thấp. Tiêu thụ nhiều hơn có thể không đem lại lợi thế. Uống quá nhiều thậm chí còn gây hại, ảnh hưởng đến khả năng giao tiếp ngoại ngữ, khiến bạn chỉ nói được ở tốc độ chậm, ngắc ngứ vì không còn tỉnh táo để nhớ được từ mới.
Hy vọng mẹo nhỏ trên đây có thể giúp các bạn tăng khả năng chiến thắng vòng phỏng vấn của mình. Nếu đang là nhân viên chính thức và bạn muốn tìm hiểu làm cách nào để phát triển sự nghiệp của mình cao hơn, hãy tham khảo series bài viết sau đây của Headhunt Vietnam nhé. Chúc các bạn may mắn!
